Why Am I Not Living the Life of My Dreams

“If I gave you a magic wand, what would you change in your life?”

—The G.O.P.


In America, anything is possible. If you can dream it, you can live it. Every resource you need is here at your fingertips. There is no need to hold back on any vision or dream. But most people in America are not living their dream. They hold back. They make excuses. They fail to act. Why? In years past, I have asked that question countless times. And now I know the answer.


Are you living the life of your dreams? Do you have a dream that you have never acted upon? What is your dream? If you are not living your dream life, ask yourself, “Why not?” From my experience, unhappiness is epidemic in America. We seem to be a nation that is declining in happy citizens. It is rare for me to talk with couples who are truly happy and in love with each other. It is also rare to meet someone who is living their dream. Why is this?


America may be the land of opportunity, but it also seems to be the land of fear-induced procrastination. Many Americans seem to be living vicariously through other’s lives. You watch movie stars living their dream, but you are not living yours. Your neighbor may be living their dream, but you are not. Social media is full of people professing to be living the life of their dreams, but in reality, this is just showboating. Look into their eyes in real life and you will see the unhappiness. But these people all want you to believe they are happy, that they are living the dream, that they have it made.


Contentment and overwhelming pacification are at the root of your hesitation to dream big and go for it. By this I mean you do not have a passionate desire to act on your dreams, so you go about your daily life, even if it is mundane. Unhappiness can be fueled by depression, which is simply the regret of something you did (or did not do) in the past. It becomes depressing when you can’t let it go and the memory keeps looping.


When I was a kid, my dream was to have big muscles. Being one of the youngest and smallest kids in the neighborhood fueled my fantasy of being a muscle man to get the respect of the other kids—and to keep from getting pounded by the neighborhood bullies. At age 13, I received a weight set for Christmas and this set my dream into motion. By the time I was 26, I was fit, had big muscles, and owned my own bodybuilding gym. But I did not stop there. I kept dreaming! I dreamed I would be happy, healthy, successful, living close to the ocean, a best-selling author, seminar host, TV host, successful businessman, and millionaire. I kept that vision fresh in my mind daily and by 1999, all those dreams had come true. But I did not stop there, either. I dreamed of inspiring millions to live the life of their dreams and I would be the guru who points the way for them. I am in the middle of making that dream come true, which is really a double dream because it involves my dream and the dream of the folks I am inspiring. This blog you are reading right now is part of that dream, as is my Hang Loose Peace Movement, My “Hang Loose” book, my “Hang Loose” rock album, my peace and love gift shop (The Hippie Hut) in Juno Beach, Florida, and my 21-Day Life Reset program.


If you have a dream inside you, express it, put it on paper or your computer, review it daily, and imagine it in your mind. If you believe in prayer, pray about it. Meditate daily and after meditating, bring the vision of your dream into your mind. See it clearly. Every step you take, make those steps in the direction of your dream. Move away from any actions or thoughts that do not support your dream.


Surround yourself with people who are supportive of your dream. Walk away from anyone who does not believe in you or your dream. If your dream requires additional education, get it. If it requires you to move, pack your bags! If your vision is with someone else besides the person you are with, then face your true feelings on this and move on down the road. It took me two marriages before I connected with the woman of my dreams. Had I not been honest with myself and honest about my dream, I would have remained stuck in two unhappy marriages.


I am not suggesting that you race out and break up with your lover or get a divorce, but what I am suggesting is that you take a long hard look at your current life and be honest with yourself. If you are not happy, explore what would make you happy. Dream without restriction. Believe in your dreams. Then set that dream in motion by making a clear decision to go for it, take action, then watch that dream come true!


Peace and love

—The G.O.P.





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